Build your self-esteem. You didn’t get in a position of power because of your weaknesses or shortcomings. Deconstruct your success and figure out exactly what others value about you.
Set priorities in your life, and allocate your time to address them. If an activity doesn’t directly address a priority, don’t do it. There’s no such thing and a work life and a personal life. You only have one life.
Don’t overuse your independence to the point that it becomes a liability. Leaders advance more rapidly than others in the organization because of their drive and self-reliance. But it continues to be lonely at the top for men and women. Ask for and accept help when you need it.
Build intimacy in your life outside of work. Commit time to your family and friends. They are the ones who will help you gain balance in your life.
Develop a firm but fair leadership style. Often women fear rejection when a situation demands they be assertive or forceful. Most leadership positions demand respect, not necessarily affection, from their direct reports.
When others don’t behave as they should, don’t take it personally. You didn’t cause it; you can’t fix it; and it’s not your fault.
Don’t even try on the Superwoman costume. It doesn’t look good on anyone.
Get rid of guilt. Make decisions based on the available information. Then move on. You can’t undo the past.
Don’t worry about the future. Your track record indicates you’ll figure things out when you need to.